There are many reasons to be proud of being a Billiken. Not the least of them has been its open and
progressive tradition. In the coming
year, SLU will be able to celebrate the 70th anniversary of Father Heithaus’ call to integrate the university.
This was another of the important firsts to which our university lays
claim. This tradition is one of the
things that attracted me to SLU as prospective faculty member and was the
answer I gave to many when they questioned me on why I was going to work for a
Catholic University. In my 11th
year of teaching here at SLU, I have unfortunately experienced firsthand that
SLU is abandoning this tradition.
In
October I celebrated my fourth wedding anniversary. I was married under a chuppah by a Rabbi (yes
I am Jewish) in Massachusetts, I can show you both the wedding certificate and
ketubbah. When I returned to SLU I
asked to have my husband added to my health insurance but was denied. I was told that we weren’t married. We have lived with that insult for four
years, but things have changed. This
summer the Supreme Court struck down key features of DOMA which allowed our
marriage to be recognized by the federal government. In September, the Department of Labor sent out guidance that employers should base determinations of spouse on state of
celebration instead of state of domicile.
In plain language, that means it doesn’t matter that Missouri continues
to deny recognition as long as my marriage is legal in Massachusetts (which it
is). With these changes I again asked HR
to extend coverage to my husband. Again
I was told that I wasn’t really married.
When I continued to press I was told that they had looked further into
the matter and that SLU was not mandated to do so.
Was
Father Heithaus mandated to initiate integration of SLU? Have we turned our backs on social justice
and caring for the whole person? I fear
we have. My husband now tells me that he
does not feel welcome on campus. I can’t
tell him otherwise and only wonder what I will tell the daughter we are
expecting.
I would
also add that this position is inconsistent with more recently espoused goals
to be the finest Catholic and a top-50 university. For those of you who are thinking, but SLU is
Catholic and the Church does not officially recognize same-sex marriage, I
would point to the Jesuit institutions that do provide these benefits. Of the 7 Jesuit universities recognized by US
News and World Report as national universities, SLU is the only one that does
not provide these benefits. Overall, the
majority of Jesuit universities do extend benefits to same sex spouses and/or
domestic partners. While it is true that
many of these schools are in marriage equality states, several of these schools
extended these benefits before being mandated.
Within the Midwest this includes both Marquette and Loyola Chicago.
Looking
beyond the Jesuits, here in the Saint Louis area, Washington University,
Webster University, University of Missouri Saint Louis (UMSL), and Southern
Illinois University Edwardsville all provide these benefits. UMSL faculty and staff started receiving
benefits this year when the Curators approved benefits for all 4 schools in the
UM system, which also includes Columbia, Kansas City, and Rolla (now Science
& Technology). Other public
universities in Missouri that provide these benefits include Truman, Missouri
State, and my husband’s alma mater Central Missouri.
By
saying that it is not mandated, SLU is turning its back on its history, mission,
and strategy. The time has come for SLU
to be true to itself and do the right thing.
I want to be able to give my family the support and security they
deserve. I want to feel welcome on
campus and to be a proud Billiken again.